Definitely never Debian. I've always been more fond to any other distribution, one of personal favourites being Gentoo. Next comes Arch. Debian and ubuntu are bloat-ware in my opinion. It's pointless to install a "clean" install that takes gigabytes and requires hours to remove stuff until it's any good. Even though arch and centos use systemd as well, I am not fond of it too. Maybe I'm old school that way that logging should go elsewhere than journald and keeping tabs on what services are supposed to start and which are running should be simpler, like in Alpine..
And apt is no different from yum or dnf. If you mix packages from different distributions/versions, you find yourself in the world of pain eventually.
Cyber security in full control. Yes, on the level that I require it to be. I am hosting a website, not a server that holds classified documents- only public and published data is held there. I just need to have it there, without anyone changing it to fit their purposes and change it to a site for side-boob.
Didn't know we have a psychiatric companies here.. Mental health facilities in Finland afaik are.. Well, let's say, not that well funded as they would be needed.. And still my site has screen shots and link to App Store - so it's not a theft that I am afraid of, it's more a bad review since developer won't be available if issue was found..
Yes, all the information is indeed provided. But it's not a secret. I also can say that I have a safe at my home that comes with 2 ways to open it, digital keypad and physical key, but without further knowledge of combination or location of key, all this is trivial information - most safes these days have one or more ways (without breaking it) to go in, so do servers, otherwise it would be impossible to manage them.
And calm down a bit- spread all the way to Apple's iOS? I assume this talk is about my home's gateway, getting past that to my network and through that to my server- Stop being paranoid. OpenWRT is more often updated than most commercially available router's stock firmwares and yet, they provide enough safe environment. I know people who have about 10 years old cable modems, and it's fine.
And so what if I have equipment in my network? What are doing with yours? There's a router sitting and nothing connected to it and you get freaked out as there just was a new nightly available that you didn't have time to install? o_O
Problem is more on your end. Maybe I am in a denial if I say that my home network works fine and is safe enough. That said, it sounds like I don't have a problem with that.
Wiki is full of entries about possibilities - it's just as much information that is provided here, just take your pick and once in a while you end up with end-point that takes advantage of technology described in selected entry.
I am some what a super-social person. I can talk to strangers about things that some people think are private, but yet, only give enough information that it cannot be used against me. I see here no ip addresses, all these posts are written on my laptop after work hours from various locations through my phone's hotspot, so even this way, there's not much of traces to me or to my home. I earlier confessed that I use my phone while driving, I haven't yet seen anyone taking me down for a crime- even though a confession is here written and gravatar is a modification of my face from 15 years, and even my name is used here as a userid- still I am at large.
If my outdated version of system in my gateway is that big deal to you; have a nice flight, and welcome to Finland- go ahead and update it, I haven't seen need for that in years. Okay, due to covid, invitation is a bit pointless.... But offer was there merely to point out where the problem lies..