Sorry, but what you need to do is read the documentation!
Documentation is hard to write so I do appreciate you might miss some bits, but then that is what forums are about - to ask and hopefully get answers.
First thing first though, if you only have two or possibly three meshnodes you might get away without using mesh11sd. This is how the very outdated video you linked goes about it.
But even with only 2 nodes, mesh11sd has the potential to achieve considerably better performance because it is able to dynamically tune the numerous mesh parameters that in many cases cannot even be set in the wireless config (or in luci).
Yes, but on a full "mesh" population of mesh nodes running OpenWrt.
The population size can vary from 2 up to something like 254, depending on hardware, traffic density, etc. Larger numbers are catered for too, but lets not get into that for now 
The current version of mesh11sd is 5.0.1 at the time of writing and is available on master/snapshot with a pending PR for 24.10 that is stalled due to issues with the build system for 24.10, so hopefully coming soon. The ipk can be downloaded from Github though if you cannot wait.
By default, yes it generates an ipv4 subnet different from the default 192.168.1.1 to prevent clashes with any upstream that might use the same eg your isp router.
But this can be changed by a simple config setting to make mesh11sd use the default 192.168.1.1 See option portal_use_default_ipv4
That is most easily done using ipv6 instead of ipv4. This is simple to do and, yes you guessed it, it is described in detail in the documentation:
Getting the Portal Node ipv6 address
- You can do that in the Firmware Selector, best solution for a "rollout" at a particular venue.
- Once you have the mesh running, you can enter a "Luci-able" mode and do what ever you like - even break the mesh if you don't know what you are doing. But that is the beauty of using the Firmware selector to make a basic custom image - you can always do a factory reset back to "just flashed state".
The "Luci-able" mode is enabled with the command mesh11sd commit_all commit
BUT, it should be noted that all the basic wireless options can be set within the mesh11sd config, eg ssid, encryption type, passkey etc. so in many cases you do not need to do anything to other config files or go into Luci, particularly on the remote nodes.
While we are on the subject of remote nodes, mesh11sd collects data on the usage of the remote node access point connections (aka mesh gate connections). This data is stored on the portal node and can be viewed in json format via the command mesh11sd show_ap_data all
It will only use one, defaulting to 2.4GHz (by now you should know where to find how to set the config for this
)
The problem wit three radios is that, in the pre wifi6+ wifi7 world, only one 5GHz radio can be used in a mesh network due to DFS restrictions - you cannot use a DFS channel for mesh backhaul - the backhaul triggers a DFS false detection.
In addition one of the 5GHz radios is usually a low spec with poor antennas designed for scanning for proprietary non-standard "mesh" devices from the same manufacturer. Not much use for anything in many cases.
That is exactly what the auto_config in mesh11sd does. The one you connect by ethernet to upstream will automatically turn itself into a "Main router with mesh".
All others will turn themselves into mesh connected "dumb" access points.
Of course if you switch on that above mentioned "Luci-able" mode, you disable the bit that allows a node to detect if it has an upstream ethernet, so your portal node will be stuck as a portal node. You can of course switch off "Luci-able" mode if you so desire (yes, see mesh11sd revert_all revert
in the docs
)
It is all designed to be very simple, both for the beginner and for the professional doing a large rollout.
There is even a portal bridge mode for cases where you just want to add on a mesh extension to an existing network.
Here is a list of the major features in version 5.0.0 onwards:
- Auto configuration of 802.11s mesh backhaul
- Optional Bridge Portal mode supporting VLAN trunking over the mesh backhaul.
- Optional Trunk Peer Mode providing ethernet downstream VLAN support.
- Optional Customer/Client Premises Mode (CPE)
- Default support for Opportunistic Wireless Encryption (OWE), with OWE Transition.
- Optional portal node to multi point peer group, enabling "guest" networking over mesh backhaul without the need for setting up a VLAN.
- Centralised Access Point usage database, enabling connected client statistics to be viewed.
Note: By default, a separate guest type network is provided over the mesh backhaul, without the need for vlans.
The only problem is that people expect it to be hard, using Luci, editing configs etc etc. where in truth it can be very simple.