over the last few months i have asked a ton of questions and received a TON of amazing help, i now have a custom network with full; IPV6, DoH, and Sqm, all running on a raspberry pi.
my network topology is a docsis 3.1 modem from my ISP, providing 500/20 to my raspberry pi 4, running openwrt, i have 4 vlans running out to an edgerouter x acting as a vlan aware switch, 1 trunked port, and the 4 vlans assigned 1 per port. my primary vlan(acting as home lan) feeds an 8 port gs108 switch, and my secondary vlan (acting as home lan extension) is my home wifi router, my work vlan is a single port for a single device isolated from everything else, and my ISO vlan is my sandbox port for testing alternate setups downstream.
i would never have gotten here without the incredible help provided here. seriously amazing community!