I didn't connected the Proxmox server to the router directly.
Then I wanted to add port 1 back to br-lan and the router became inaccessible and had to get a paperclip.
So now on attempt #3.
Before I restored the internet connection I tested the Proxmox server connected to OpenWRT. Works.
Proxmox connected to unmanaged switch.
Works.
Now I have wan and lan.
What is the next step? Add dmz interface?
Why were you changing the port assignments. my recommendation was to keep the configuration as close to the defaults as reasonably possible for this test.
So please confirm...
right now, you can connect from a laptop on wifi > proxmox sever as expected, right?
Yes, this is fine. Add the DMZ interface and then test the laptop (on the lan, not the dmz) > proxmox again.
The only one that should exist (in the default config) that you would remove for your goals is the lan > wan forward. Removing that will cause the lan to lose all upstream/internet access.
Yes, if you want to disable IPv6, go ahead and remove the wan6 interface and the IPv6 related items in the lan DHCP server config. Leave everything else alone.